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I used to think I was very sly about this until the other day. I was at the grocery store with my friend and she's like. But then something happened just yesterday at work I work at a hospital mind you and I got caught looking at another nurses crotch from across the hall. I don't remember how long I looked at it, must have been a while, cause then I looked up and he was staring right at me. He smiled and just walked away.

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You watch as the man you love turns his head quickly, looks her up and down, and his eyes linger just a little too long on her breasts, or her backside. I love and adore her. I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

The world is full of beautiful sights — flowers and sunsets, great works of art — none more beautiful than the female body. Noticing another woman is really nothing more than that: acknowledging and appreciating beauty when we see it.

Men can be head-over-heels in lovecompletely devoted to one woman, and still be attracted to other women. A research study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior revealed big differences in the way men and women are drawn to potential partners.

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Women preferring men who closely resemble their current partner, and rating men more attractive the more often they see them. We are drawn toward the new and different, attracted to many different women, with many different features and body types. And the instinct to look at other women is usually acted on before the slower, conscious, decision-making process kicks in.

Everywhere we look, we are exposed to sexual images and innuendo deed to sell us everything from cars and cologne to beer and cheeseburgers.

While it is normal for men to notice other women, to look and admire, and even fantasize a bit, there is a line of respect that a mature and committed man will not cross. Glancing at another woman is one thing. Staring is another; and it can be hurtful, embarrassing and offensive. But once the moment passes, I quickly turn my attention back to the love of my life, the woman to whom I am faithfully devoted. It is tempting to assume that because the passion has started to fade, your partner is no longer into youand he is looking around to explore other options.

Our brains emit a powerful and intoxicating chemical cocktail whenever we see— or even think about— our partner. For many men, this natural buzz is often enough to drive all thought of other women from our minds, reducing or eliminating our wandering eyes. Second, during this intense, new love phase both partners tend to idealize each other, completely overlooking annoying habits and traits. Even if your partner did check out another woman in front of you, you might be so infatuated with him that you ignore it, or unconsciously block it out.

There is a gradual change in the way our brains respond to our partner, and it changes how we feel and act when we are together. For him, his old hunter-gatherer instincts kick in as strong as ever, and he finds that his eyes are once again drawn to every attractive woman who crosses his path. We were entering a new phase of our relationship, and the dynamic changed for both of us.

Caught redhead-handed

Up to this point, a love affair is easy and effortless, as both partners are swept up and carried off by the raging storm of their mutual attraction. But in order for a relationship to survive past this point, it takes real honesty, commitment and clear communication on both sides. A glance does not equal a betrayal. Remember that he loves you, he cares about you, he is committed to you, and he is still attracted to you. Of all the women in his life, he chooses to be with you.

When we hold our partner to impossible standards, it le to a never-ending cycle of disappointment, hurt feelings, anger and frustration. No one wins.

How to deal with it when a guy looks at other women

We have to get real about human nature and sexual desire. There are lots of beautiful women in the world, and you are not the only one that your guy finds attractive. Practice Non-Violent Communication. Express your honest feelings without blaming, shaming or accusing him. If your partner is committed to making your relationship work, he will be willing to work with you in setting some healthy boundaries.

And most importantly, he should make it clear to you, in both his words and his actions, that he still wants you, and cares for you; he is still attracted to you, and committed to your relationship. Many cultural myths and stereotypes would have us believe that men are emotionally insensitive, and driven by their sexual urges alone.

He knows that an emotional and spiritual connection is more fulfilling than a one-night stand; that sex is so much more satisfying, more profound and pleasurable when you share a deep bond with your partner. He looks, appropriately and respectfully, but he does not touch. Above all, he goes out of his way to show you that you are his priority; that he loves youhe cares for you, and out of all the beautiful women he sees every day, you are the one that he chooses, the one that he wants, that he is yours and yours alone.

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Did you know that attracting a man to you forever and making him powerfully drawn to stay with you no matter what has more to do with how you make him feel than how you look? To find out exactly how to create this kind of devotion in your man and have an unfair advantage over any woman who crosses his path, watch this right now. Ben Neal is a freelance writer from Kansas City, who writes about life, love, and how to live a life you love.

I agree with you. So we as women just have to suck it up? Men want us to take care of them and they just disrespect us. Men clearly think with their penis and nothing else. Now we know we just need to accept this behavior. I wonder how these unattractive men feel they can justify this behavior. This article is a bullshit excuse and if my man wants to look at other women he should go be with them. I am not getting the same in return? End the relationship. If they make him horny he should let them get him off.

Every gas station, car wash, yep always looking! He goes out 7 days a week for hours! I wonder if there is at least 2 men in the whole world that has eyes only for his woman?

Yeah, I doubt it too! Go get the other girl that you have eyes for???????? I agree. Men are greedy hurtful pigs. I am pretty much I spent 43 years with a selfish man who played the field with every filly that came along he would chase and change we have two kids together and 3 grandkids but he is no longer a husband he is just a friend so putting it in that perspective I am protecting my family and not really caring what he does.

When you’re in a relationship, you’re committed to one person. so is it okay to be checking out the cute guys that cross my path?

My husband stopped while with me to watch a much younger woman go by as I kept walking I realized he was not with my anymore and turned to see him watching her for a lengthy amount of time. I am sick and tired of hearing that is what men do there is no excuse to look at another woman none. So let me understand this. Men get to have a side chick, once caught, and we forgive them. If the shoe was on the other foot, they would not forgive us. I will not tolerate this behavior. This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever read and you are a disgusting person for attempting to normalize this behavior.

Like us women should just have to sit there and be okay with our partner oogling someone else in front of us?

This is disgusting and degrading, and the most insulting thing I have read in quite some time. And you wonder why so many women have body image issues and insecurities.

I appreciate this article. Being insecure as a woman has made me feel hurt and jealous many times when my partner looks or even says anything about someone else. I have since gotten over this. This article shows much thought and makes a lot of sense. People have flaws and if you are not comfortable enough in a relationship to acknowledge that your partner may find someone attractive and look for a moment then the problem is you. Men are not pigs for taking a two second look with their partner around.

This article is great, thank you.

When you’re in a relationship, you’re committed to one person. so is it okay to be checking out the cute guys that cross my path?

Two seconds is fine but out right gaucking and rude commentsthere is a fine line. These women not only want but so desperately crave male attention. You can literally see it in their body language. Liars they are, but obviously not so very good liars. S No one wants male attention. Many women wish we could live without it. No one wants your attention and I think that upsets you. If you love your partner, respect her. Stick to looking at the beautiful things in life that you entitled to and accept that once your in a relationship, your right to gain sexual pleasure from a passing stranger that is suppost to inificant to u regardless how beautiful has been vaporised.

Keep your eyes to yourself and stop trying to justify being a perv by claiming you chose her and your hers. Hi Carmen. Please refrain from name calling, using lewd terminology and making disrespectful comments to other commenters. We aim to keep the environment here safe for people to share.

Totally agree with you Carmen! I love how real and honest this post is.