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I get the desire to detach from 'men' but god, butch is such an ugly word I admit English is not my language. Report Quote 37 Post by Guest » 10 JanI think those labels are efficient for describing you or the next person. Having a lot of terms does make my head ache, but this terms can be quite helpful.
Does that make me anything less of a femme lesbian tho if I like to wear suits in heels? I get the impression that stone butches are mean butches.
But I think I'd look ridiculous and corny so I'm in chapstick lesbian hell I guess? Also does anyone really use the word futch lol.
Shades of ‘butch:’ in their own words
Report Quote Reactions. Report Quote 53 Post by guest » 21 MayI don't know the exact definition but to me a soft butch is a gender nonconforming lesbian who doesn't play a role.
She's just seems more comfortable and doesn't need to play tough or be alpha or whatever. Report Quote 67 Post by Guest » 21 MayThere is also an emerging usage of the terms soft butch, "stem" stud-femme"futch" feminine butchor "chapstick lesbian" as terms for women who have characteristics of both butch and femme. Lesbians who are neither butch nor femme are called "androgynous" or "andros".
These traits may or may not include short hair, clothing that was deed for men, and masculine mannerisms and behaviors. Soft butches generally appear androgynous, rather than adhering to strictly feminine or masculine norms. In the spectrum of gender expression among lesbians, a soft butch lies closer to a butch lesbian than to a lipstick lesbian. This type of behaviour is also considered socially acceptable of alternate gender roles within the lesbian community.
Whereas it is sometimes considered a betrayal of the lesbian community to be "too feminine" or "too masculine", the soft butch is an acceptable in-between state that generally receives greater acceptance. However, some soft butches may share many characteristics as a stone butch with the exception of preferring to not be genitally touched.