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I met her when she was hired where I work. I was dumbfounded at how attractive she was. After some months we started talking and had a couple lunches together. She asked me to attend an office party with her.
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We met there and many guys had started bringing her drinks. I slept on the couch. We started going to movies, out to dinner and hanging out.
We dated for several years and talked about everything including past relationships. I was once married, which she knew since my kids visited every other weekend.
She told me about one guy she worked with at her first job, like it was not much. Now, 20 years later we ran into that guy and I discovered she was with him for six months and had sex with him.
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This has caused me more pain than I could ever imagine, feeling my whole world has ended. I ask her, how many times? Where did you go?
What did you do? She did not cheat on you, but she did lie to you.
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Your makes it easy to see why. From the start, you recount your own strong moral stance. Apparently, not you. Facts: You still love the woman you met 20 years ago, were happily married for 17 years, have a teenage son and other children. Despite those enviable and lucky realities in your life, an overriding sense of morality drilled into you since childhood is driving you away from love and family cohesion.
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